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Useful Illinois Family Law Materials
In this section you will find recommended reading materials that we have found helpful for our clients (and ourselves) relative to family law issues. These books are available at our office to our clients – just call and ask!
It Doesn't Have to Be That Way: How to Divorce Without Destroying Your Family or Bankrupting Yourself
By Laura Wasser
Hardcover: 304 pages
Publisher: St. Martin's Press (October 1, 2013)
Maria Shriver, Kim Kardashian, Stevie Wonder, Britney Spears . . . Who do they have in common? Top LA divorce lawyer Laura Wasser.
If anyone ever had a platform to write a divorce book for today's generation, it's Laura Wasser. She has been practicing in her field for nearly twenty years, represented many of the country's top celebrities and has been celebrated for her unique style, her empathy and her expertise. Wasser's personal and professional life have been profiled by publications like the Los Angeles Times, Vogue and Interview. Most important, her approach is different from almost any other and she articulates it in a simple manner.
Laura Wasser addresses an entire generation who want—and need—to handle their breakups differently. It's no secret that the divorce rate in America is more than half the marriage rate. Yet the means for dissolving a relationship often seem hopelessly mired in an outdated perception of how it's supposed to be done. Wasser acknowledges that this generation's realities have evolved greatly since the previous generation's in almost every way, and that they want to get divorced cheaply and efficiently and maintain control of the process themselves. The daughter and partner of a prominent Los Angeles Family Law attorney, she has a deep history in the field, and she knows the available roads to resolution like nobody else. At times psychologist, at times strategist, and distinctly of this generation, Laura and her book will offer readers safer passage through what can be a devastating time, emotionally and financially.
Mogul, Mom, & Maid: The Balancing Act of the Modern Woman
By Liz O'Donnell
Hardcover: 224 pages
Publisher: Bibliomotion (November 5, 2013)
The state of working women has been declared, debunked and debated since the days of Rosie the Riveter. The headlines, and the statistics behind them, however, don't tell the whole story. The truth is, many women today are breadwinners; and these breadwinners are struggling. They are caught in a perfect storm of male-dominated culture at work, traditional social norms at home, and outdated schedules in the schools. Mogul, Mom, & Maid takes an honest look at how women are balancing home life and career. The pressures of child rearing, coupled with an unfulfilling corporate culture, are too great to be ignored. Author Liz O'Donnell goes beyond statistics and tells the stories of women all across America who are juggling careers, motherhood, marriage, and households. Mogul, Mom, & Maid looks at the choices women are making, the options they have, and the impact these decisions have on themselves, their families, and the businesses that employ them.
Child Less Parent: “Snapshots” of Parental Alienation: Information for Divorced or Divorcing Parents Paperback
Paperback: 36 pages
Publisher: CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform (April 4, 2012)
A must-have for parents in high conflict divorce. Child Less Parent: “Snapshots” of Parental Alienation provides vital information, education, and support to divorced/divorcing parents and their extended families. Parental Alienation causes children to reject one parent after a divorce or separation and is often considered a form of child abuse because of the negative psychological impact it has on kids. Many “targeted” parents don't seek help because they are fearful of losing their children permanently or are ashamed of their situations. Child Less Parent: “Snapshots” of Parental Alienation breaks down the barriers preventing parents from seeking help by providing clear and easily understood information. Accompanied by vivid photographs, Child Less Parent affirms the value of the targeted parent and offers hope to struggling families.
The Essential Guide to Children and Separation: Surviving Divorce and Family Break-Up (Essential Guide To… (Lion Hudson)) Paperback
Series: Essential Guide To... (Lion Hudson)
Paperback: 192 pages
Publisher: Lion Hudson; 1st New edition edition (November 1, 2013)
Of interest to all adults helping children work through a divorce or separation, this book provides real help at a difficult time
Written with both personal and professional insight, The Essential Guide to Children and Separation includes interviews with children who have gone through the adjustment process when parents separate. It sheds light and brings hope and encouragement to anyone who is trying to help children through one of the most difficult of life's experiences. All children will react differently, but some issues are common to all: the need to be listened to; coping with the grief that follows the destruction of the family unit; having divided loyalties; dealing with the organization necessary when a child has two homes; and coming to terms with step-parents and step-families. This is essential reading for those who need to know how to support children through the divorce process and the years that follow, including parents, grandparents, extended family, friends, teachers, youth workers, and counselors.
The Essentials of Parental Alienation Syndrome: It's Real, It's Here and It Hurts Paperback
Paperback: 138 pages
Publisher: CreateSpace Independent Publishing Platform (October 21, 2011)
We are seeing an increase in high conflict, adversarial divorce cases in mental health practices and in the courtrooms around the country. These cases present with a significant amount of parental conflict and, as a consequence, represent a threat to the children caught in the middle of these conflicts.
Curiously, there is a great commonality among these cases in terms of the tactics alienators use to separate a parent from his or her children. It is almost as if they, the favored parent, were reading from a published playbook. Many evaluators and clinicians include Parental Alienation (PA) as well as Parental Alienation Syndrome (PAS) in the same category when discussing this topic.
PAS is acknowledged as being extremely controversial. It is controversial within the mental health profession and equally controversial within the legal profession. The purpose of this work is to share ideas, thoughts, background, theory and some experiences in working with high conflict families. It is important for professionals to get a sense of both sides of the PAS issue. Whether one uses PAS as a term, the problems brought by these cases are very real.
The reluctance to consider PAS by name in the psychological and legal communities tends to contribute to the perpetuation of the problem in a variety of ways. Like any other designation, PAS can be and is misapplied and misused. Whether or not it is the appropriate diagnosis or description of behavior in a case must be determined by facts of that case and supported by evidence and data from multiple sources. An appropriate diagnosis and identification of PAS, along with a description of the severity, can make the difference between timely and effective interventions or allowing parents and children to be scarred for the rest of their lives.
This work was compiled from a number of recordings of continuing legal education workshops and seminars that the authors had conducted over the last few years. In addition, the content was embellished with content from a number of papers that the authors published along the way. Some of these can be seen on the authors' websites, www.drbobevans.com and www.jmichaelbone.com . Also, the works of Richard Gardner (1998), the original author of the disorder referred to as Parental Alienation Syndrome, were reviewed and selected ideas and content are inserted into this work. Both authors are contributors to the proposed diagnosis for inclusion into the next edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual published by the American Psychiatric Association and some of that work is include herein.
The authors are very grateful for having the experience and honor of working with Dr. Gardner when he was alive. He was a man of unusual talent, a prolific writer and a pioneer in the field of forensic psychiatry. Unfortunately, much of his work is misquoted, exaggerated and at times misunderstood. This book is simply a snapshot or overview of Parental Alienation and Parental Alienation Syndrome and should be used as an outline in working with this disorder. Readers are encouraged to read Dr. Gardner's works and others thoroughly in order to have a working knowledge so they can work with the children and families who have become victims of this terrible malady.
Dinosaurs Divorce (A Guide for Changing Families) Paperback
by Marc Brown
Age Range: 3 – 6 years
Grade Level: Preschool – 1
Series: A Guide for Changing Families
Paperback: 32 pages
Publisher: Little, Brown Books for Young Readers (September 1, 1988)
Dinosaurs Divorce Will Help you Understand: * Divorce Words and What They Mean * Why Parents Divorce * What About You? * After the Divorce * Living with One Parent * Visiting Your Parent * Having Two Homes * Celebrating Holidays and Special Occasions * Telling Your Friends * Meeting Parents' New Friends * Living with Stepparents * Having Stepsisters and Stepbrothers.